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This blog addresses various emotional aspects of experiencing infertility. It is written by a clinical psychologist who specializes in infertility counseling. Thank you for reading, and best of luck with your journey!

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Upsetting things people say, and what to say back: self-protection during infertility treatment

If there is one thing that I have learned from my own infertility, it is that people can say some rather insensitive and mindless things! Enduring countless questions about when you are going to start a family, admonishments that you certainly aren't getting any younger, and other helpful "advice" can wear on a person, especially a person who is already experiencing a lot of stress and disappointment. The holidays, with their many family and social engagements, especially seem to be a hotbed of activity in this regard.

It's hard to know how to respond to these types of comments. I myself still struggle with this issue, and many of my clients describe similar dilemmas. In this blog, I will outline some creative strategies of responding to these situations that may be useful.

Striking a chord


I think one of the hardest aspects of responding to upsetting comments is that they often stir up our own feelings of inadequacy or self-blame about our infertility. As I have discussed in a prior post, it is quite common for individuals experiencing infertility to worry that somehow their medical problems are caused by their actions, beliefs, or feelings, despite all evidence to the contrary. Thus, hearing, "You just need to relax" for the zillionth time can reinforce our feelings that we are somehow doing something wrong, and that is the root of the problem. Our emotional reaction doesn't take into account that rather than a lack of relaxation, there are medical issues at play--and the speaker likely does not have any expertise in this area. In addition, if infertility has already taken a toll on self-esteem, hearing about how so-and-so became impregnated merely by her husband looking at her can heighten feelings of inadequacy.

When you are experiencing negative feelings about yourself, it can be hard to formulate a response to the comment or question right in the moment. This is why I believe it is important to try to anticipate problematic comments or questions in advance. I'm not suggesting getting paranoid about it, but it can be helpful to consider what might be said or asked, and by whom. As you start thinking in this way, you will find that certain situations call for such comments, and that certain individuals can be counted on to say something insensitive or unfortunate. Planning in advance can help you to develop a plan you can implement if and when verbal misfortune occurs.

They started it!


When responding to insensitive or inappropriate comments or questions, it is important to consider that although society teaches us to answer questions when asked, and to try to be polite no matter what, in reality we have much more freedom in terms of our responses. In my way of thinking, if somebody else has already crossed a social line, then all bets are off! We often fear breaking a social rule because we worry the consequences will be severe. After you try it in one of these situations, however, you will realize that in actuality we have much more flexibility than we may believe.

Let's say someone has just said something inappropriate or upsetting to you regarding infertility or family building. How do you respond? I have a few approaches you may not have previously considered that might work for you depending on your needs at the moment.

Stonewall.


Sometimes saying nothing at all says the most. We are trained otherwise, but it is true that just because someone asks you a question doesn't mean you need to answer it. So many times, the questions that people struggling with infertility must endure are very intrusive. For instance, you probably don't go around asking fertile people with whom you are merely acquainted what sexual position they used to conceive their children. So a silent stare, and a change of subject, might be just the trick in these situations to set your boundaries in place.

Educate.

Many times, instead of answering questions or responding to comments, I have found myself giving a little manners lesson to my unfortunate conversational partner. I don't know whether they found this to be a helpful lesson, but I do know it certainly made me feel better. I was especially inclined to do this when someone pressured me about not having children, and not getting any younger. I would tell them, "You know, let me give you a piece of advice. You really shouldn't be going around making these statements or asking people these questions. You never know if someone is having a problem having children or not, and if they are, the things you are saying can be very painful. I'm sure you wouldn't want to cause anyone to feel upset, so this is why I bring this up." This usually shut down the conversation right away, although not surprisingly, I never got the sort of thanks I felt I deserved for imparting this sage wisdom.

Be outrageous

Sometimes in these situations it is most effective to think outside the conversational box. The best example of that I can think of is not infertility related, but does illustrate the point. When I was growing up, my mother provided foster care and adoptive homes for orphaned cats. Sometimes, quite a few of them were with us. Of course, they had to eat, and my mother, being thrifty, wanted to buy the cat food when it was on sale. She would get embarrassed though, buying all the cat food because people would always ask her questions about how many cats she had, why she had them, and wasn't she crazy for having all of those cats? Finally, she got so tired of this that she sent my father to buy the cat food instead. He loaded his grocery cart full of cat food, and as usual, he was approached by a woman who wanted to know how many cats he had. With a straight face, he looked at her and said, "Ma'am, we don't have any cats." He left it at that, and rolled off his cart as she struggled to contemplate what other possible uses there could be for all of that cat food.

I am sure you can come up with similar zingers for your particular situation, especially with a little advance planning. Not only will you be able to protect yourself and effectively end the line of conversation or questions, but you also may enjoy doing so.

Get the heck out of there


Sometimes, none of the above strategies are going to work. You might already be so overwhelmed with emotion that you can't continue the conversation any more. In these cases, if it feels too hard to continue, then simply excuse yourself. Try to do something that will comfort you and help you feel better, whether it's a good cry in the bathroom or hanging up the phone and yelling at the wall. You can always deal with the consequences of exiting the situation later, and hopefully the person will understand. If they don't, then it doesn't reflect well on them, does it? Dealing with the difficulties of your own situation is probably hard enough--you don't need to worry about saving the feelings of everybody else too.

48 comments:

  1. I like these. And, I like the idea of having "permission" to not be polite. I know it will be something I'll beat myself up about later (because that's who I am) but I think I'll definitely go with the "ignoring" or "educating" ideas.

    I would love to try the "cats" example!! In fact, I could see just answering any questions with "we don't have any cats" and moving on. Now that would be confusing!

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  2. Rebecca, that's too funny! I think answering intrusive questions with a nonsensical answer, like "we don't have any cats", and then moving on, would be a fantastic approach. I think I will use it myself! :)

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  3. I really like this post, Lisa. Thank you very much for sharing your insights. The idea of planning responses is such a great one because a lot of the comments (and their provenance) are predictable. I hate how people don't know to mind their own business, but I hate even more that I don't have a good come back when they intrude. I think I will try the silent stare next time.

    Thanks again.

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  4. Thanks for this post. I've become so irritated by stupid comments that I'd decided to lock myself in the infertility closet for now - not telling anyone anything (except on my blog!). Of course, it's easier to do with secondary infertility. I often wonder how those suffering through primary infertility can handle all the comments without resorting to violence.

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  5. I wish i read this before the holidays started. I am very much out of the closet but still find it hard to deal with the just relax comment or how to respond to the over eager examples of other people struggling with IVF.

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  6. Just relax sucks. So does why do you want kids so badly anyways(that gem came from my sister in law who was pregnant with baby #3). I also hate just adopt. But on a lighter note I appreciate this advice.

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  7. This is a wonderful post on a difficult topic I struggle with every day. Thank you for the wonderful advice!

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  8. I like this post a lot. I have been struggling with the feelings of shame (which I know are self inflicted), and also the "Just relax," or "Don't worry so much," statements. It makes me incredibly angry when someone says that to me. Like it's something that I can just turn on and off.... I have reached some kind of mental wall concerning my PCOS here lately, and this post (and several others) has helped me to laugh at a little. Thanks. :)

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  9. I've come up with a couple of responses to the "do you have any children" question, depending on the situation. Usually I default to, "No, we aren't able to have children," delivered without any smile. Then I'm prepared for the follow-up solutions of "just relax" and "have you thought of adoption" with "my reproductive endocrinologist tells me relaxing doesn't work when it comes to infertility" and "every infertile person thinks about adoption, but it isn't fair to adopted children to be acquired as a conception aid." I live in the Bible Belt, so whenever an elderly woman asks me how many children I have (they all just assume that since I'm a woman ergo I must have kids), I almost always respond with, "God decided he'd keep all my children with him in heaven instead of giving them to me." I usually get blinks in reply and then a quick change of subject. People, I've discovered, find it very easy to deliver the "it's all in God's plan for you" line, but they're not used to hearing someone give it back to them like that. My third response is, "My children live in my heart," which could imply any number of scenarios, and I find most people will leave it at that. I feel that people ask these intrusive questions because they're simply trying to make conversation and/or figure out how this new person fits in their world construct. Before my infertility I was guilty of relying on the easy conversation opener of children as well. I also went for "What do you do?", not remembering that the recently laid off find that one emotionally difficult to answer. So now before a social event I prepare a few innocuous conversation openers: "Have you lived in the area long?" "Think we'll get the rain they're promising"? "What do you enjoy doing in your down time?" Open-ended questions that don't pry or assume, and usually produce answers one can build a conversation on.

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  14. What is the proper response to say to someone who is infertile? For instance, I have been in multiple situations in which I asked if the person had children and they said they have not been able to, or they haven't been blessed, and yet each time I'm speechless as to a proper comment.

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  35. My name is Sharon Quissa I am 43 years old from united state this is a true story of my life I am here to tell the world about the good work of Dr, Agumba has done in my life. I get married over 9yrs with my loving husband, since then I was having a serious problem of getting pregnant I keep on prying every day of my life that God should help me out of this situation my husband family wanted me to live there son since I couldn’t give birth to a child they called me all kind of names after so many years of my marriage my husband wake me up at 12 mind night and started telling me all sought of words that if I cannot get pregnant this year he will divorces me and I got confuse don’t know what to do so one day I was searching trough the internet I saw a testimonies of 45 years old woman giving thanks of how DR, Agumba help her to get pregnant with pregnancy spell. and I contacted Dr, Agumba immediately he told me not to worry that my problem is solve only if I believe that I am in the right place. After the spell was done, he sent me two different types of herbal medicine and told me to use it for seven days after the seven days I meet with my husband and i got pregnant immediately. I'm expecting my baby soon I'm so happy because DR, Agumba make me a woman today. you can also contact Dr Agumba his website address. https://dragumbasolutioncent.wixsite.com/spell or email dragumbasolutioncenter@gmail.com call /whatsapp +2349032173881.

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  36. Hi there. My name is Rachael Mildred from USA. I have used spell casting to get my ex husband back to me and also get pregnant with twins through the help of a great and trusted spell caster. When I came online last year, I met a testimony about Doctor ODUNGA who has been helping people and I decided to contact him. We spoke on email at odungaspelltemple@gmail.com and he said he would also help me get Fredrick back after 3 years of no contact. When your spouse leaves you, you feel your whole world start crumbling down. There is nothing that seem right anymore. I and Fredrick have been married for 6 years and because I could not bear a child for him, he dated other women and this has been my nightmare for more than 5 years. He left home and we had not seen each other nor heard from again. When I met Dr. Odunga, he is the best spell caster I must say. You might be skeptical too, no problem but I was helped by him very well. My husband called me after 24 hours and when I received some medicine from this man, I became fertile. I and my husband reconnected, had sex and I became pregnant. I am happy today to be the mother of twins girls and this is ALL THANKS TO DOCTOR ODUNGA. If you need help, you are saved with this spell caster, contact his email at odungaspelltemple@gmail.com and you too will give a testimony too to help others

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  37. You need help to GET PREGNANT? contact Dr ZOZO on this email (drzozoherbalhome5@gmail.com), i am here to share my testimony on HOW I CONCEIVE my baby. i have been married to my husband for 11 years without no issue.i had problems with my in-laws even my husband started to have new affairs aside our marriage. it was a very terrible thing to bear. i became a laughing stock among my pear, i prayed and fasted and nothing happened, been to many doctors and yet my case remain the same, i was now seen as always unhappy.i was even ready to pack out of my marital home and stay on my own because my husband was not given me any attention that i needed from him. i decided to focus on my job and try to live happy on my own. on this faithful day, i decided to check the net for updates on healthy living and i came across a story of a man who Dr ZOZO helped his wife to conceive a baby. i decided to put a try because this has been my greatest problem in life. today i am a proud mom with two son. words will not be enough to explained what this man did for me. i am a happy mother,i know there is someone in same condition and you feel there is no way. i urge you to contact him. This is the solution to every single mother around the globe. distance is not a barrier, he will surely make your dreams come trough. contact him today via email: drzozoherbalhome5@gmail.com or WHATSAPP [+2349031111198

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  43. BE CAREFUL HERE NOBODY CAN HELP YOU HERE OR EVEN SUGGEST HOW YOU CAN GET YOUR EX OR LOVE BACK,ANY TESTIMONIES OF MOST SPELL CASTER HERE MUST BE IGNORE.BECAUSE MOST OF THEM ARE SCAM I MEAN REAL SCAM WHICH I WAS A VICTIM AND I GOT RIPPED OF THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS BECAUSE I WAS SO ANXIOUS TO GET MY WIFE BACK AFTER SHE LEFT ME FOR OVER 2 YEARS WITH MY 7 YEARS OLD SON JERRY,I HAVE APPLIED TO 7 DIFFERENT SPELL CASTER HERE AND ALL TO NO AVAIL THEY ALL ASK FOR SAME THING SEND YOUR NAME YOUR EX NAME ADDRESS AND PICTURE PHONE NUMBER ETC WHICH I DID OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND MOST OF THEM WERE FROM WEST AFRICA UNTIL I SAW A POST ABOUT MRS OKOJIE SPELL AND I DECIDED TO GAVE HER MY LAST TRAIL.SHE ASK ME FOUR THINGS MY REAL NAME,MY EX AND MY EX MOTHER NAME AND $180 AND SAID MY EX WILL COME BACK IN 24HOURS, I HAVE PAID OVER $3000 ON SPELL CASTING AND COURIER AND NOTHING HAVE WORK FOR ME AFTER 3 DAYS I WAS THINKING ABOUT HOW MUCH I HAVE LOST SO FAR SO I SAID LET ME GIVE HER A TRY SO I CALLED HER AGAIN AND SEND MY REAL NAME,MY EX AND MY EX MOTHER NAME AND THE $180 BECAUSE I SWEAR IT WAS MY LAST TRY SO I WAS WAITING AS SHE TOLD ME TO WAIT TILL NEXT DAY AND I COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT BECAUSE I REALLY LOVE MY WIFE AND WANT HER BACK AT 9PM THAT DAY I SAW MY WIFE ON LINE ON FACE BOOK AND SHE SAID HI AT FIRST I WAS SHOCK BECAUSE SHE NEVER TALK WITH ME FOR THE PAST A YEAR AND 9 MONTH NOW I DID NOT REPLY AGAIN SHE SAID ARE YOU THERE? I QUICKLY REPLY YES AND SHE SAID CAN WE SEE TOMORROW I SAID YES AND SHE WENT OFF-LINE I WAS CONFUSED I TRY TO CHAT HER AGAIN BUT SHE WAS NO MORE ON LINE I COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT AS I WAS WONDERING WHAT SHE IS GOING TO SAY, BY 7.AM THE NEXT MORNING SHE GAVE ME A MISS CALL I DECIDED NOT TO CALL BACK AS I WAS STILL ON SHOCK AGAIN SHE CALL AND I PICK SHE SAID CAN WE SEE AFTER WORK TODAY I SAID YES SO SHE END THE CALL IMMEDIATELY I GOT OFF WORK SHE CALL ME AND WE MEET AND NOW WE ARE BACK AGAIN I CALL MRS OKOJIE THE NEXT DAY THANKING HER FOR WHAT SHE HAS DONE IN FACT I STILL CALL HER AND THANK HER AS MY LIFE WAS NOT COMPLETE WITHOUT MY WIFE PLEASE BE CAREFUL HERE I HAVE BEEN SCAM THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS IF YOU WANT A TRUE LOVE SPELL THEN CONTACT MRS OKOJIE (mrsokojiehealinghomeforall@gmail.com)

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