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This blog addresses various emotional aspects of experiencing infertility. It is written by a clinical psychologist who specializes in infertility counseling. Thank you for reading, and best of luck with your journey!

Thursday, July 12, 2012

IVF causes stress, but stress doesn't cause infertility: I knew it!

I've said  it before, and I'll say it again:  unless you are extremely and chronically emotionally distressed (and I mean extremely so), it isn't the root cause of your infertility.  I have long maintained that your ovaries do not care about your unconscious, unresolved conflicts or your relationship with your mother.  Your uterus is not swayed by either profound wishes to become a parent, or ambivalent feelings about changing poopy diapers at 3 am.  If this were true, the human race would have become extinct long ago.  We can hardly say that we live in the most stressful time in history--as long as humans have been alive, they have experienced feelings of stress.

Now, however, I can say these assertions with a little more confidence, thanks to some new research.  A study published in the journal Fertility and Sterility (found here) found no relationship between levels of stress women experienced before IVF and their treatment outcome.  As you might expect, they did find a relationship between treatment failure and a higher number of IVF cycles and higher levels of emotional distress.  The study's authors concluded:

IVF failure predicts subsequent psychological distress, but pre-IVF psychological distress does not predict IVF failure. Instead of focusing efforts on psychological interventions specifically aimed at improving the chance of pregnancy, these findings suggest that attention be paid to helping patients prepare for and cope with treatment and treatment failure (Pasch, et al, 2012).

As a clinician who works with individuals and couples experiencing infertility, I wholeheartedly agree with this conclusion.  To many times, clients come to me with a deep-seated worry that they are the architects of their own misery, and that their desires to have a child have caused their fertility problems.  Of course, it doesn't help that many people hold this mistaken belief, and are constantly telling them to just relax and stop trying.  

I'm afraid my own field of psychology is partially to blame for the theory that emotional conflict causes infertility.  I remember when I first started realizing I had an infertility problem, I did a search in the psychology literature on infertility.  I discovered a case report of an infertile woman, who was allegedly cured of her infertility once she finally worked through her unconscious conflicts about motherhood.  I was upset upon reading this--although I didn't feel I was excessively conflicted about becoming a mother, could my unconscious be keeping me from getting pregnant?  
 
Luckily for me, a few moments later I had to get back to work, to perform a diagnostic evaluation on a woman who was suffering from mental illness and drug dependence and who had several children, none of whom were in her custody.  She was rife with conflict, conscious and unconscious, about motherhood, and yet her reproductive organs appeared to be working just fine.  That experience, combined with my knowledge about the giant endometrioma that had set up camp on my ovary, allowed me to shake off some of these worries.  I knew somehow that feelings of conflict or mild upset couldn't be interfering with fertility--that just couldn't be right.

Too often, when we don't understand a medical, physiological problem, we tell patients that it is caused by a psychological factor.  For example, until we realized that ulcers were caused by a bacterial infection, we blamed stress and emotional distress for their development.  I predict that the more we come to understand the different underlying cause of infertility, the psychological explanation will fall by the wayside.  Until then, it is important to remember that although there is no conclusive evidence that stress causes infertility, there is a great deal of evidence to indicate that infertility causes stress, anxiety, and depression.  Thus, as the study's authors conclude, our focus should be on treating these "side effects" of infertility, not on subtly blaming infertile individuals for having these feelings in the first place.

 

10 comments:

  1. Love that study. (Also love that people are studying whether or not IVF CAUSES stress.. Is it supposed to be calming?)

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  2. Maybe someone should tell the people at NYU this because the RE they had on doctor radio on XM yesterday was blathering on about her "many" patients that got pregnant from vacations. They went on to say that telling IF patients to relaxes upsets them but they spent at least 15 mins going on about how stress can make you IF. Golly.... shooting me up with hormones and having all on my savings on the line I should just be cool as a cucumber huh. Sigh.

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  4. I've been happy to see that research on stress and IF is demonstrating more clearly that it is a unidirectional relationship of IF -> Stress/anxiety/depression.
    Like you said, we have enough to feel bad about without thinking that we have somehow caused our infertility.
    Thanks for your great posts.

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  5. Loved this post, thank you so much for writing it and providing scientific research! I get so irritated when people tell me to 'just relax' as if that's the golden ticket. If were that simple, all infertile couples would be on anti-anxiety medication. Thanks again!

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  6. Amazing post! Thank yuo so much for the reassurance.

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  7. Its not embarrassment, because your are not responsible for these type of issues raised in fertility. Male specially thinks in that manners, not women. But This is just like other systems working in our body do effect the other process and if any defect has occurred its right to figure it out with no shame.
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  8. This is great Lisa. I adore you so much for giving me assurance about this. This is my problem in the past few months ago, I am always stressed. Well, thank you so much for the best information. I had learned from it and I had a great time reading your post.

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  9. Interesting research and interesting way of thinking!

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  10. Yes I agree that IVF causes stress but stress does not cause IVF but smoking and obesity are two major causes of infertility.

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