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This blog addresses various emotional aspects of experiencing infertility. It is written by a clinical psychologist who specializes in infertility counseling. Thank you for reading, and best of luck with your journey!

Thursday, January 17, 2013

Top tips for surviving infertility treatment, day four--it's okay to be bitter

As a clinical psychologist specializin in infertility, I cannot count the number of times I have heard a client lament the fact that he or she is feeling bitter about infertility.  There usually is tremendous worry and guilt about feelings of bitterness.  For some reason in our culture, bitterness is one of the most negatively viewed emotions.  Of course, prolonged bitterness for years and years isn't a good thing, but a little short-term bitterness probably won't do lasting harm.  After all, there is much to be bitter about when it comes to infertility.  It is unfair and painful, and treating it is usually expensive, time-consuming, and fraught with stress.   I think it is unrealistic to expect that a person going through infertility treatment wouldn't feel bitter at some point.

If you ever find yourself feeling bitter about infertility, I would encourage you to try to accept these feelings as a natural result of your situation.  Most likely, they will be temporary.  Thus, although they are not pleasant feelings to sit with, they are usually not cause for concern.  By accepting and working through your bitter feelings, you are much more likely to be free of them in the long-run.

Thanks for reading, and I'll be back tomorrow with another tip!

3 comments:

  1. I agree with this one so much. If you're going through infertility, you're going through enough without having to deal with your own guilt for feeling how you feel.

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  2. Yeah i absolutely agree with you. Here one just need proper care and guidance to fight with infertility and take right infertility treatment.

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  3. You also must be psychologically strong in order to enjoy your sex life.
    Low self-esteem, complexes, bringing work-related issues to home, being nasty to others, etc., can take a heavy toll on your sexual mood. So, learn to meditate, relax, and think positively if you want to improve your sex life.

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